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this basically what i have been observing for almost 4 weeks here.. our cultures are quite different from the west.. it is accepted here to send ur loved one (your SPOUSE! your parents) to the aged-care services (rumah orang2 tua).. but in malaysia for those who did that, you’ll be considered as derhaka and such.. but sending ur loved one to Aussie’s aged-care services is not as bad as sending ur loved one to the current centre that we have in Malaysia.. they have properly trained medical staffs, and visiting drs.. even visits from families are very often..

some of my friends even think that if malaysia has the same system as aussie, maybe she’ll be considering doing the same things.. instead of sending ur loved one away due to hatred, or whatever reason, u send them to have a proper care.. they have a lot of activities everyday, so that the elderly social function is maintained.. we played bingo, we sang (our favourite song show me the way to go home!) and partying (which we didnt join.. wine was served) and catholic church session (we did join once- just curious)..

beside all those program, i guess they have emptiness that could not be replaced
by anything.. i always wanted to say something about islam to them, but they are demented…i  didnt know if they understand since their cognitive function is not very good (herm, i always find excuses for myself.. i should have at least try)..

anyway..despite all the benefits, i wont send my family to an aged care centre.. i dont know if i am able to be with them 24h but at least they’re with me.. but i hope all my family members will stay healthy and active until the end of their lives… becos once u become dependent,u will have all symptoms of depression.. doing geriatric study is quite good coz i’ll be able to understand the elders more..

anyway, here they like hug and kisses.. which is not in our culture.. i guess mama kissed me when she went for hajj,i never kiss ayah after the age of 7? i dont know.. but here.. they like to be hugged and kissed.. i have problem with that until recently that i started to give them TLC they needed (tender love and care).. it makes me sad though, u were kissing someone else’s mother.. hehe, i hope i can do that every now and then to my parents.. i guess i am missing my family a lot.. travelling with friends are not bad at all, but sometimes u may have some argument, disagreement.. yeah, everyone is not the same… some prefer to be like this, some prefer to be like that.. sometimes we are tired and act like a jerk..comment those and this.. the hormonal changes period.. etc etc.. there’s lot of ups and downs.. of course u tend to know ur fren better.. but things like that just cant be avoided.. it brings a lot of stress.. i am sorry for my rudeness and those comments that were not needed.. yeah, and there’s a lot of assumptions too, like they’re talking behind my back etc.. we’re frens.. we talked about other frens.. but we never say something bad.. we maybe hurt by each other.. but in the end, we prayed that our fren will understand that we’re sorry, and may she/he be in the best health and iman.. i am stressed right now.. it’s not good to write when ur stressed, but i have no body to talk to at this moment.. i feel quite relieved.. ya Allah, give me strengths to continue the journey.. may this friendship remain aman as kami semua bersahabat untukMu.. jadikanlah teguran sesama kami adalah untuk mendekatiMU tetapi seandainya kami tersalah, ampunkanlah kami, dan lapangkanlah hati sahabat2 kami terhadap kami.. ameen..

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